Monday, April 30, 2012

One Year Later

Yesterday was one year since we said good bye to our precious boy Charlie. 

If you are a new friend or you missed out on that part of our journey you can read about it here

You have all been so wonderfully supportive and many of you have asked how I am going. I am going well. It has been tough at times and I did have another miscarriage not long after Charlie's birth but the doctors and specialists could find no reasons why I was miscarrying. The last specialist we saw advised that I give my body a rest for about 6 months. So we did. 

Having 3 miscarriages in 12 months, two of them being in the 2nd trimester was hard. I lost a lot of blood with those two miscarriages and it is only now that I am feeling better that I realise just how tired my body was.

I am glad that we had a break but it wasn't easy to just wait. 

Our human nature urges us to get in and fix the problem not sit back and wait, combine that with the pressure of a ticking body clock and my desire to have a few more babies, not just one made the waiting very hard!

So we are trying to have a baby again and I am trying very hard not to become consumed by the process and the desire. 

The new business has been a great project for me to focus on and channel my energy into. It is a blessing to be able to be doing something I love and having the flexibility to be around for our son when he gets home from school and during the holidays is fantastic.

Thanks for being around when I've needed you and for stopping by and visiting me. Thanks to all of you who emailed me to check on how I was. 

I would appreciate your prayers as we try to have a baby, twins would be just fine :-) and would love to hear any advice you may have.

Hope you all have a wonderful week!



  1. Hi Nellie

    So sorry about Charlie and your loss that must have been you know I am saying big prayers for you and Nick to have a healthy pregnancy and baby/ you're aware Chris and I are trying for a baby/babies too and I am saying many prayers that all goes well for us's hoping we both have successful journeys on the baby front Nellie :) xoxo

  2. Hi Nellie, I knew it was near the time you lost Charlie. I often think about that when I read your posts. I didn't realize that you had had another loss. I am so sorry for that too. I often think there is no explanation. We can't tell what's going on with something so complicated. All we can do is hope and pray that you are blessed with a baby in the future. And being distracted with your new business is a good thing. It can consume one of you are not otherwise occupied. Prayers to you my friend.

  3. Nellie darling...your practicality, positivity and perserverance is what is going to the driving force in helping bring that dream to fruition. So proud of you. I will be hoping and praying that magical day will come your way very soon. Sending big hugs x

  4. Thinking of you Nellie, what a tough year you have had! Sending my positive vibes your way as you try for your little miracle. Much love... Son x

  5. My thoughts are with you dear Nellie, may the sun shine on your little family in the form of a wee babe very soon xo

  6. Hi Nellie,
    I remember you losing Charlie. You've been through so much - perhaps now that you are more relaxed and working at your own pace it may help. We lead such busy, stressful lives that slowing down can only be a good thing. Sadly, miscarriage is so common and there's often no explanation. I really hope that nine months from now we are seeing pics of your baby (twins/triplets even!).
    Much love,

  7. gorgeous Nellie wishing you all the best postive vibes for the furture and yes i have my fingers & toes crossed for TWINS or a gorgoeus little bubba!!,my heart broke when i heard the news about charlie, i think you an amzing and strong lady and wish you all the best luck.hugs melli xx

  8. Thinking of you, sending you big

  9. Hi darling girl, what a lovely post. I'm always thinking of you. Very best of luck for becoming pregnant again. I need to reply to your email now! Lots of love always, Rachael xx

  10. As a 'new friend' I have just read your beautifully written post from last year. I had tears streaming down my face, a lump in my throat and a knot in my stomach. I'm so sorry that you had to experience such pain in the midst of such anticipation. I hope that your dream of a larger family does come true.
    Take care.

  11. Nellie, I won't forget reading that post. I have no wise words but will just send you a big squeezy hug. I really do hope all your dreams come true xox

  12. Nellie I sit hear with my eyes filled with tears as I have just read your original post, oh my you are so strong and positive and I hope all your dreams and wishes come true - sending you love and light xxx

  13. Anonymous01 May, 2012

    Twins?!?!?!? LOL I Love You. xx

  14. Hi Nellie -
    I knew it was around the time you lost Charlie last year but wasnt' sure of the exact day. I think of you often. I have and will continue to pray for you - That you might be able to relax and be at peace and that God will bless you with a healthy baby (or two!) in His Perfect timing.

  15. Oh sweet Nellie - your dream will come true one day. I know it's so hard in the meantime to play the waiting game and from personal experience, know how hard it can be to focus on anything other than falling pregnant. That is why having your new business will be so wonderful for you to focus on. I think the hardest thing is not having any answers for the loss of your darling Charlie and your second miscarriage. It's human nature to want to know why and how we can prevent these things from happening again. I hope that this year is the year for you and your husband and that you are blessed with a healthy pregnancy and a healthy bub very soon. Much love xx