I don't blog much about being a parent, I'm not sure why. I am one and I have been for over 12 years. I love being one and if you have been around here for a while you know that we would love to have more children.
I guess most of the mummy bloggers I have come across all have younger children, when I started blogging my child was already older and he didn't really provide me with much blogging material, he went through a phase of not liking photos. Actually he may still be in that phase.....
I am really blessed to have a great kid, not that we don't have issues, but he generally responds really well whenever we have an issue and it goes away, at least for a while. Hormones and teenage years means that that we often get a bad attitude but we can usually deal with it and we have a break before the next one hits.
Parenting is one thing I don't usually doubt myself on. I am not perfect but I am pretty confident that as a mum I do ok. I was a single mum for 7 years and there were times I did doubt what I was doing and I really wished I had someone to support me and reassure me that I was doing the right thing, as wonderful as your family and friends are it is not the same as your husband partnering with you and helping you along the journey.
I am so blessed now to have a wonderful husband who helps me and supports me and shares in the joys of parenting.
Becoming a family wasn't easy, we had lots of things to sort out. Our first year of marriage was our first year together as a family and we had some interesting conversations. I was so used to making all of the decisions in my life for myself and my son and Nick was not used to children at all. It was interesting....
Anyway fast forward to 4 1/2 years later and I am so proud of my boy, he is growing into a very fine young man. I love how he is getting stronger and taller and is so helpful :-)
I love how he can have a conversation with adults and be respectful, I love hearing his voice change and I love hearing him talk about anything really (my boy like most males has limited words for use during the day, me being a female often struggle with the lack of words from him).
Me thinking about parenting all started this morning when I sat down to have my coffee, I started to read Kate's blog which lead me to Laney's blog that then lead me to Rachaels blog and back to Laney's blog (I'm not even sure how that trail all happened but it happens often with me and next thing you know I have been at the computer for hours)
I haven't read Rachael's or Laney's blog before but they both started me thinking about being a mum and then I read Laney's request:
"So please send me one short sentence describing something that is good about being a mum"
So I thought about it and for me it is this
"Seeing my son grow into the man that I know he can be"
Being a mum is rewarding and humbling and my prayer is that when he leaves home he is ready to be the best that he can be and that I have done all that I can to help him achieve that.
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Nellie, your gorgeous young man looks so happy! I really enjoyed reading this post tonight. I think I was meant to read it, having only recently become a single mum myself. Your words remind me that there are other women out there who have survived the early trauma and succeeded in their ability to embrace life and raise a well-adjusted child. You are obviously a wonderful mother xx
ReplyDeleteThis is a lovely post and your boy sounds like a great lad Nellie. My son has recently turned 25 and I love him to pieces. He moved out two years ago and while I miss him I believe our relationship has grown because we really appreciate each other now and enjoy catching up. Plus boys are good value because their bear hugs are priceless!
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This was a lovely post to read Nellie. I have no doubt he'll turn into a fine young man proud to call you his Mum , like you are proud to call him your son.
ReplyDeleteHi Nellie....as you know I completely understand where you're coming from as I too was a single mum for twelve years raising two teenage boys and a teenage girl....unfortunately there's not much we can do about the hormones and attitude that comes with it but as long as you get past it that's the main thing......My oldest will be 21 in 3 weeks and I really do wonder where that time has gone.....and now here I am at 37 starting again....I must be mad hehe.....enjoy your boy while he's home he'll be gone before you know it....xo
ReplyDeleteLovely words Nellie. I hope your son gets to read this one day.
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Lovely post Nellie, you have done so well raising your son as a single mum than to blend as a new family. I really don't want those teenage boy years of grunts and not much conversation so I am trying my best to ensure I keep them talking to us as much as possible! As our boys are so spread out in age it is quite nice to have one heading to the teenage years, one school age and a baby. Something for everyone! I hope you get your wish of another baby soon, they would be so lucky to have a mum like you xx
ReplyDeleteGreat post and nice to read. I especially loved how you summed up what you like about being a mum. Such beautiful words. Sadly I don't know what its like to be a mum and we are unable to have children. However we are blessed to be surrounded by friends children and our nieces and nephews, for which we have more than enough love to give them all.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely post Nellie. Your son looks so grown up in that last photo and sounds like such a lovely boy - that is all due to the fantastic job you are doing as his Mum!! He is very lucky to have you xx
ReplyDeleteHi Nellie, Great post. It is the hardest job in the world and I can tell you have done an amazing job. You just need to look at that face in the last image.
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